Beautiful post on a very difficult topic. A few months ago I posted a guest post from a writer who is estranged from her aging parents. It's so important that more be written on this topic which affects so many of us.
“At the expense of self-preservation.” That’s how it would feel for me to break no-contact with my parents. I’d be doing it for them- but I don’t want to.
Anna, I'm here and giving you a BIG hug. Thank you for sharing this with us. I hear you. I'm sorry for all the pain and guilt and hardship you've had with your Mum.
I respect how much courage and clarity it must have taken to make those choices and decisions to set boundaries. No judgment here, only love, empathy and support.
You have a beautiful family, and you're caregiving for all of them, including your brother AND, quite rightly as you said, you're a caregiver for your mother too. All that interfacing and paperwork to make sure she's safe and comfortable takes time and considerable effort!
I'm so glad you created wonderful memories on your trip this summer. I've learnt more about your personal motivations today, and why you're so intentional about nurturing these family moments. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you, Victoria, as always for your generous support and empathy. I've hesitated to share much about my mom, but it felt like time. And I know there are so many people who can relate, who struggle with all the conflicting feelings and the balance of caring for others while honoring our own needs and boundaries.
And yes, my little family gives me so much to feel grateful for. Hugs to you.
Beautiful post on a very difficult topic. A few months ago I posted a guest post from a writer who is estranged from her aging parents. It's so important that more be written on this topic which affects so many of us.
Thank you, Maggie, it was a tough one to write ❤️ I’ll go back and look for that post.
“At the expense of self-preservation.” That’s how it would feel for me to break no-contact with my parents. I’d be doing it for them- but I don’t want to.
Anna, I'm here and giving you a BIG hug. Thank you for sharing this with us. I hear you. I'm sorry for all the pain and guilt and hardship you've had with your Mum.
I respect how much courage and clarity it must have taken to make those choices and decisions to set boundaries. No judgment here, only love, empathy and support.
You have a beautiful family, and you're caregiving for all of them, including your brother AND, quite rightly as you said, you're a caregiver for your mother too. All that interfacing and paperwork to make sure she's safe and comfortable takes time and considerable effort!
I'm so glad you created wonderful memories on your trip this summer. I've learnt more about your personal motivations today, and why you're so intentional about nurturing these family moments. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you, Victoria, as always for your generous support and empathy. I've hesitated to share much about my mom, but it felt like time. And I know there are so many people who can relate, who struggle with all the conflicting feelings and the balance of caring for others while honoring our own needs and boundaries.
And yes, my little family gives me so much to feel grateful for. Hugs to you.